As parents, it can be very difficult living with teenagers and their behaviour can often be distressing, worrying – and even hurtful.
But it’s important to remember that there are physiological reasons behind their behaviour and they may be struggling to deal with how their body is changing and finding their way in the world… and it’s likely that they won’t want to talk to you about it all.
It’s a confusing time for teens and a challenging one for parents, but as the adult the responsibility lies with you to guide them through it as best you can. Taking care of yourself is essential as you won’t be able to help them if you’re not in a good place mentally and physically, so make sure you’re getting what you need as well.
Come up with some boundaries for your teens and make sure you both stick to them. This shows them that you care about them and what they’re doing. Make sure you listen if and when they do come to you – but also allow them to learn from their own mistakes and accept that they may not do things in the same way that you would.
Communication can be difficult so make sure you choose the right time and place to talk before tackling any issues. Try not to take what they say and do personally, either, as it may well be that they’re not angry with you but are just struggling to control their emotions.
Keeping your own emotions in check is advisable as well and if you need to, take some time out to calm down before tackling the subject again.
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